Remember those days?
Those days when your kids babbled or cooed or were just learning to speak?
It was cute, right?
And oh..........that first word, the first mama, the first "I love you".......it melts your heart.
But you know what else is great?
I love car talk.
Well, most of the time.
Sometimes the VERBOSITY of my children can get to me........I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE THEY GET IT FROM.
But much of the time I love car talk.
It's unguarded talk - they can't look right at me and I can't look right at them. It's time when we are all in one place with nothing to do - no toys, no screens, no distractions, no work, no other people. Just me and them.
And so the other night we are in the car and the talk begins.
Fia: B******** asked me out today
(WHAT THE HECK?!?! ASKED YOU OUT? ARE YOU SERIOUS? YOU'RE IN THIRD GRADE?!? AND THIS IS THE KID THAT HAS BEEN AFTER YOU FOR TWO YEARS NOW! WE ASKED YOUR TEACHER LAST YEAR TO CHANGE YOUR SEAT BECAUSE HE WOULDN'T LEAVE YOU ALONE! WHAT THE HECK?!?!)
Me (in an utterly calm voice): Oh. (Pause) What did you say?
(One of THE BEST pieces of advice I have ever gotten was from Suzi - NON-REACTION. No matter what your kid says to you, what word, what idea, what thought - NON-REACTION. It has opened a million doors to some of the best conversations I've ever had with my kids)
Fia: I told him no.
(YES! YES! YES!)
Me: Oh. (Pause) Well, that seems like it was a good decision. Third grade still seems a bit young to be going out with someone. How did it make you feel when he asked you, though?
Fia: It kind of freaked me out.
(Good. It should. YOU ARE IN THIRD GRADE. STAY FREAKED OUT A BIT LONGER!!!!)
Me: What happened next? What did he do?
Fia: He asked out a bunch of other girls. EVEN THE NEW GIRL, Mom. She just got here, like, last Friday and he asked her out. Finally A****** asked if he would stop talking if she said yes and he said he would so A***** said yes and he stopped talking. He still likes me the BEST, though. He only likes the other girls a little.
(I am starting to see how even though it FREAKED HER OUT that she might still appreciate being the one who is liked best..............hmmmm................might have to have further talks about this.......girl to girl)
Nico (from the far back): I would tell him NO. NEVER. That it is REALLY INAPPROPRIATE.
Like I said.
Then we came home, had some dinner and Francesca said she was going to put on a dinner show.
So she did.
Splits and all in the kitchen while we ate.
It was really INAPPROPRIATE :)